Thoughts About Your Wedding Vows

It’s rare to make a pledge in our modern time. Even rarer is to make a promise from the heart with lasting integrity. I believe that your wedding vows are one of the most important parts of your ceremony. Your wedding vows remind you of what this covenant in marriage that you’re making with each other truly means.  Tim Keller says “What then is a covenant? It is a relationship far more intimate and personal than a merely legal, business relationship. Yet at the same time, it is far more durable, binding, and unconditional than one based on mere feeling and affection. A covenant relationship is a stunning blend of law and love.”

Many couples are afraid of writing their own vows. And then, even more intimidating, is saying them in public. There are ways to get around these fears if it’s just too much for you to say them in front or your guests. Some couples decide to say their vows in private to one another before their ceremony. Others decide to say them on their wedding night. Couples write love letters to one another, including their vows, and they read them privately on the morning of their wedding. Or, if you’re having a “first look” you can say your vows then.

I understand that saying your vows in public can be anxiety making. I believe that there is power in our words and when we state promises in public, we’re saying, “I am accountable to you for the promises I’m making today.”  Those present will also take your words into their hearts.  In another blog, I wrote “Writing Wedding Vows Without Stress”. I said, “Whether you know where to start, how to write your own vows, or cry through them isn’t what’s important. Whatever you decide, be it pre-written vows, or your own written words, your promises to each other will be one of the most cherished parts of your ceremony. The real key is access to the wellspring of love that flows from the Honey in Your Heart. Trust that when it comes time to make your promises, it will all work out.” https://www.honeyintheheart.net/ceremony-blog/tag/Writing+wedding+vows

I’m available to help guide you with your Vows if you use my services. And, whatever you decide to do – be it sharing them privately or aloud in public – your Vows will be your unique covenant with one another as a loving promise that binds your two hearts together.